I can't cope anymore d I've had enough of everything, I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant and feel so alone all the time. I barely cope with mine but what I do find helps is getting out every morning at 9 and heading to somewhere with open space - the woods is my favourite - for them to run around and explore. but most painful, I've lost my ability with my horses. This has been my entire life." Stair gates on doors mean that it is harder for them to get into fridge or fill cups with water etc, also makes it easier for you to keep an eye on them. Whenever I fail to cope up any emotional turmoils, excessive pressure or conflict, I distract myself from everything with over sleeping and over eating. I've ridden my whole life, now it seems every time I try to ride it all goes to hell, I know they feed off my emotion but it scares me as I feel I'm getting to a point I can't get myself back, and now I have this great horse and I can't seem to make things work. the guys is using you. Sign up below for regular emails filled with information, advice and support for you or your loved ones. Forum membership is open to anyone residing in Australia. I found a bath every night, then quiet time/stories etc calmed them down-and could also shorten the afternoon if bad weather! Stay out as long as you can, then straight into winding down tidy/ tea/ bath / story / bed routine. There's no discussion, no negotiation, and it's used for all scenarios from whinging, back chat, through to fighting with her brother, or yesterday, throwing all her toys down the stairs then getting her 2yo brother to slide down them on a dressing gown Hitting is an immediate "3". And consistency. She is now almost blind, is on dialysis and awaiting a kidney transplant. Can't cope with my ADD/ODD child. God bless. Your Housing and financial situation like are there benefits you are eligible f… Sounds a nightmare, and being pregnant again you must be very tired.I had 3 children, and what 's coming across is that your home is not child proofed.You need child proof locks on everything - fridge, cupboards, doors. Apparently it worked anyhow. Things need to go back to basics with expectations and house rules. Now I am going into year 11 and I have no stress until now. And so much more, all due to my mind will not shut up! If you see her/him minimum every two weeks... * GP's can be a huge help and venting would be great for you now, * the anxiety and depression do reduce in severity over time which is the good news..It takes time and effort tho, * If you can be kind to yourself...simplify your life and physically slow down....Think Slow Walk Slow Talk Slow, * Sleep...no ipads cellphones before bed..they only stimulate neural activity...they stimulate the mind...not good, *Sleep is an excellent healer and the building blocks to recovery. Also divide and conquer-have one in trolley at supermarket, one in pushchair (take turns if nec). Can't cope with my children anymore (40 Posts) Add message | Report. I don't know if I'm a bit too hard on her sometimes because of my frustration and emotions that I can't seem to get control of. Husband's depression - I can't cope anymore Post by ajem » Thu Mar 09, 2017 5:59 pm My husband and I have been married for ten years, we have two children and for the last 7 years my husband has been battling with depression. Your child’s needs 2. And there’ll be far less wreckage to clean at home. My partner lives miles away from me and is only here 2 days a week, hes the father of my youngest and unborn child. To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewer ads, and support Mumsnet. Take one swimming or something else you can enjoy together-they can be so much easier and much more fun 1-1-rediscover your joy with them.Do as much as you can online/while they are asleep. Babdoc that is great advice! Before you can post or reply in these forums, please join our online community. I'm very honest with my feelings yet he refuses or is incapable of seeing me. I can’t stop being depressed. I broke up with my partner of 4 years around the time she changed and I don't know if that is it, because I didn't think she even was that fond of him. However, please make sure you do it in a way that's best for him. Put things away or try and get rid of anything you don’t need. Is there a DP in this to support you?I think you need to reach out ASAP to a health visitor, explain the situation, and ask them for help. It's starting to upset my very caring boyfriend as he thinks I'm avoiding him. Sometimes, I feel the … I structured the day when my DC were preschool, so they had a walk every morning, some active play with a ball or on trikes, story time on the sofa, a few board games, half an hour of tv or a children’s video, some craft time doing painting, crayoning or collage, and they helped with the chores. But it will get better. I absolutely hate myself, and every inch of my looks and body, and try … Q. Erin, I can’t cope with my husband’s demands. If you don’t feel confident at first, fake it til you make it. If they throw toys, take them away. Do either of them normally go to nursery or pre-school? I've taken care of her everyday for well over 2 years now & in that time I've also cared for my dad for 9 months with lung cancer, at home, as that was his wish & lost him in August. Once they’re civilised, you can enjoy outings where they won’t disgrace you and cause havoc! 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Meanwhile we knew my parents had gone to eat at a restaurant THIS SAME DAY. I will keep this is point form Whispa...These work for some and maybe not for others... * Your mind is not nasty....its tired, the dreadful feelings you have are the sign of a tired and 'racing' mind, * This is the same as a physical injury...you cant 'snap out' having the flu...broken leg...infection...toothache, * Anxiety/Depression do release chemicals in the brain...physiological issue...the feelings are the end result. I absolutely hate myself, and every inch of my looks and body, and try on about 15 outfits to go anywhere. I honestly don’t think I can cope anymore I’m so unhappy I feel ill everyday with upset stomach and or nausea. I am the world's worst mum I just can't cope with my middle son anymore. Do you have enough funds for childcare ? So no potty anywhere near the sofa - keep it in the bathroom. The second thing you need to do is to stop listening to everyone else telling you that you did this, that, or the other thing wrong. When “I can’t” comes rushing out, it feel like the response to an accusation. Last night my brother had a go at me for shouting at her & something inside me just snapped. He should be a responsible man and look after you and his child! via YouTube Capture. I'm so tired of fighting them it's making me wish I never became a parent I'm obviously not good enough. I read a book called magic 123 a few months ago and it's been very helpful. Kids like boundaries, and the reassurance of an adult in control. Join the online community Community rules Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak, Hi, I'm wondering if anyone has any advice or coping methods on this? I honestly cannot imagine looking after them while pregnant. I can’t cope with my health issues anymore and nobody can figure out what’s wrong. I cannot cope with my life. Signs to watch for are feeling panic at the slightest thing or feeling that if something else went wrong you either wouldn't cope or wouldn't care. You may also cry more easily or … Im seeing a counsellor at the moment for my anxiety and I have spoken to her about it but all I ever get is all kids are the same at this stage but surely that's not true. It's really helping here. I can't cope no more, I can't except it and never will.i wanna be like everyone else I find myself looking at people and just thiking bet she has peace and quiet. My poor mother is to the point that she won't even call me anymore, because all I talk about is babies. that is clear. I start questioning whether I am at some kind of fault. He was great but it would take me all night to try get him to understand what I can't myself, but at least now he knows I'm not avoiding him at nights. AIBU reducing Grandparents' care 1x day a week whilst I'm on mat leave? If I clean one room they destroy something in another room, today for example I'm cleaning the kitchen they've poured cups of water into the sofa and emptied a potty on to it that was next on my list to empty. So im indoors alone with all 4 children a lot. Secondly...I am in no way an expert...i just want to try and offer some advice/support.I am currently pregnant, so I know how exhausting it can be trying to get through pregnancy with also managing another child/children. Please select 'ok' to extend your session and prevent losing any content you are working on from being lost. Also I avoid shops and crowded places at all costs. I also hide away from socialising with anyone other than my mother as I can't handle the slightest criticism. Thanks so much for your reply. Well as the title says I cant cope with this life anymore. Some charities are offering mellow parenting courses to address this type of behaviour, help parents to cope, but really OP you must get HV support on this one. I used to book mine in for a few days a week in holiday to give myself a break (sahm).They obviously have basic understanding being so little, try and give structured 'destroying' time.. Don't be afraid to give them a sound bollocking - imo overly gentle parenting leads to poor behaviour later on in life in some cases (not a criticism, just an observation of the accepted current wisdom). I have not had a single day away from any of my children apart from when I had my youngest boy. My horses have been my only consistent through every bad patch of life and I don't want to give them up, but my nasty mind is almost sending me down that path as I'm such a failure with them.Â, I do not want medication, I don't feel that's the path for me at all, I just think I need some mind management teqniques until I can snap out of this 'patch" too.Â, Any suggestions or help would be amazing :(, I can relate to your symptoms...all of them..These symptoms 'feeling' are awful..the social anxiety too. It’s like a whirlwind has ripped through the place every evening and it’s tiresome! He can’t go out unaided and he spends a lot of time crying. I'm at my wits end with this stupid tinnitus in both ears. and if you can't even cope with it anymore that is a clear indication that this isn't a good situation to be in! It's the life she chose. But you have to follow through and be prepared for a lot of whingeing till they get used to the new order.And I get that at 20 weeks you are probably exhausted, but it sounds as though they need wearing out - is there a small children's play park near you where they can't escape and they can wear themselves out safely? Never let the wee shits think they’ve got the upper hand. Really need some advice please because I'm not coping anymore I have tried and tried and I'm so tired now. in reply to. I have a similar age gap and I've worked with pre-schoolers. Look after YOU first, and get him out of your life, unless he decided to get his act together. I have been able to do my school work to a better degree then I have before. Forum Member. Locks on cupboards etc-whatever makes life easier and stops them causing havoc. I think they see you as a soft touch. The basic idea is as soon as Dd starts doing something i want her to stop, i say "that's a 1". I will never abandon taking care of him-as I've told him. I feel like I'm being firm but fair. I use to be good at things, now I can't even organise myself to clean the house, I stuff up everything I try, I get nervous, clumsy, panicky, angry over the tiniest things! If, after talking to you about the problems you and your family are experiencing, the Social Worker decides that your child may be a “child in need”, they will carry out an assessment. At first I had to carry her up to get room kicking and screaming and shut the tall stair gate to keep her up there. Op, it's very normal, small dc are bloody hard work. It’s homestart that supports families with under fives. Today I have turned my back on my mum because I can't cope anymore. Be 'kind' to yourself. i can't achieve anything anymore! When you've had your next baby I would suggest looking for work even if you only end up earning enough to cover childcare. Derbychick Posts: 554. My 10 year old is my daughter who is a mother hen. This afternoon I am enduring soft play because I’m fed up of them trashing the house in the name of play. Your session is about to expire. Can't think what it's called but you get someone who becomes a family friend basically and helps mums struggling with young children. Older child with issues causes conflict - can't cope anymore My ex husband and I adopted her when she was six months old. Staying in is a nightmare! And a hug - you sound despairing. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety, especially social anxiety, years ago but have always prided myself on a strong mind that could snap myself out of it, but now, it's making my life hell! I’ve been in bed most of sunday and most of today with an ongoing migraine which I know has been because of the stress of arguing. That way, they didn’t get bored and destructive. Talk widget showing discussions of the day & trending threads, Subscribe to Mumsnet emails direct to your inbox. She ate and drank whatever she wanted, didn't lose weight and missed doctors appointments. OP - I agree that your children see you as a soft touch and obviously think there are no consequences for their behaviour.I would advise that you explain, in a way they can understand, that certain behaviour isn't acceptable and that there will be consequences if they are naughty. We have! Getting support – how much does it cost? Just to make something clearer, with the magic 123 the idea is that you can just day "that's a 1" and they'll pack it in!!! I just don't understand where I've gone wrong maybe over spoiled them I don't know. My two just do not behave at all they are naughty from the moment they wake up till bedtime I have tried cutting out sugar, star charts, separate bed times I don't know what to do anymore. Im really struggling and often feel like my only escape is to go to sleep and not wake up. I am obsessed with the news, and all the murders and home invasions etc, that I am 90% of the time terrified of it happening! It was a great year. Really need some advice please because I'm not coping anymore I have tried and tried and I'm so tired now. And once it's done, it's done, we don't talk about it again. I never bothered. I'm struggling so bad I can't do it anymore I feel so upset, I'm constantly telling them I love them, I reward all good behaviour I try and take them out but even when I do that they run off or play up, if I take them supermarket they throw stuff on the floor and break it like melons and stuff, or they just rub away and hide in rails. Types of things they do, in the fridge every second, ripping wallpaper off walls, being rude, breaking stuff, tipping all shower stuff away or filling sink with tissue and blocking the sink up, trashing there bedroom and won't help to put it back, hurt each other then they are best friends again, if I put one in time out the other will go over and set them off I just don't know what to do their dad works full time so it's just me. i can't achieve anything anymore! You can do this, OP. Craft, paper to rip and stick through times when yiu need to tell them off for inside damage.Run them in park for hours every day. my partner either stays upstairs in bed all day or … But then we let things slide and have to get back on it. I think most people must go through a stage of thinking "I can't cope anymore". I never needed to shout, either. Firstly... sending hugs!! i attempted a social outing today, unfortunately came head on with my boyfriends brothers girlfriends, who individually I get along great with, but when they are together one gets very possessive of the other and I'm clearly reminded 3 is a crowd but that's more about her insecurities so proud to say I actually didn't have a meltdown over that :)Â, I will try to take the pressure off myself somewhat, re establish some routine, and get a handle on things. We're all clear on the rules, so I feel more in control. Save tv for when you are desperate-makes it more of a treat. Your child’s extended family situation 5. I feel like I’ve hit my breaking point. He is 83 - some might say he's had a good innings, but he's still my Dad and I feel I can't make him smile any more. We don't call it a punishment, so in her room she can play or whatever she wants to do to calm down. My Dad has been in an EMI unit for about the same time as yours. She does help me a fair bit when it comes to house work and the boys. You need to work on your confidence - it’s like officer training, you need to practice being in charge. I know I did. He has brought this upon himself. All my friends are having babies or already have children. I feel like I have failed as a mother and I don't know what to do anymore. I spoke to my boyfriend about some of it earlier. Similarly with your husband. My DD is 4 my DS is 3 and I'm 20 weeks with my third that I'm now regretting. My husband goes away a lot because he's in the armed forces, and I can't cope with being left alone with my two young sons. I am constantly nervous, heart racing, mood swings! Remember all parents have things they struggle with, I found the toddler stage easy-teens not so much! It would be a respite for you and would do your children good to have to fit in with behavioural norms (it could also highlight any behavioural disorder). What has been tried before 4. And I was able to stay close to my friends and hang out with them regularly. But now she will take herself up. I'm from the UK and don't no a single person with tinnitus so I feel all alone I wish I knew at least one person with tinnitus . My children (now adults) were recently fondly reminiscing about the time I stopped the car and told them to get out and walk home if they couldn't behave in the back together. Their reception teacher will thank you for sorting it before they hit the classroom- she’ll have enough feral kids to deal with. You need to establish control here as the adult. There are sadly a lot of people in the world who hurt others, seemingly more and more often, but there is no sense letting that dictate my life, deal with whatever as it comes.Â, Thanks for your response, best wishes to you and everyone on these forums having their own personal battles 👍🙂. I do have a GP I find very good to talk to, unfortunately so does everyone else haha, so the wait to get in to him is rather long, and by the time my appointment rolls around I have got embarrassed and talk myself out of it. A large chunk of the book is dedicated to positive parenting, as the other side of the coin to the discipline. I feel so selfish and silly when I think about the way I … I just can’t cope anymore. sodrained Fri 09-Aug-19 14:42:34. Help! I can't cope with my son anymore, I literally have no control over him anymore. I made some dumb decisions in the past, and like many others got caught up with a violent boyfriend. Sounds tough.  It is an exhausting state of mind that's for sure as many know. I am sorry to hear about your horses too Whispa...Like these bad 'feelings' this is temporary...they will lessen over time with a regular visit to a GP or counselor. 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